This is as close as you want to get to the cage match of combating resentments and philosophical contradictions that wage war inside my head. I did come to the conclusion that the chief job of a parent is to assimilate their child into the culture as seamlessly as possible. If you give someone a car you should be able to train them how to make it run...what it does. If you have problems with the car then don't give it as a gift to someone more ignorant than yourself. But I'm an asshole so that's probably totally wrong.
